First progress post
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Thanks everybody for the outpouring of support! And for those of you that are on a similar path, keep going, you got this!!
Things I've noticed have been no more joint pain even after a heavy session at the gym. Inflammation is gone, brain fog is gone. I do find myself constantly adjusting the seat in my truck to find a new and comfortable position. I do feel as if I have body dysmorphia issues. Although I've heard it takes a bit for your brain to catch up and register the drastic changes. That part is weird. But I still have a ways to go yet. -
Looking healthy, switch from the telehealth company save the money.
@keshave786 I like the access I have with my nutritionist and doc. At some point I will and will make the switch over to Reta.
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Thanks everybody for the outpouring of support! And for those of you that are on a similar path, keep going, you got this!!
Things I've noticed have been no more joint pain even after a heavy session at the gym. Inflammation is gone, brain fog is gone. I do find myself constantly adjusting the seat in my truck to find a new and comfortable position. I do feel as if I have body dysmorphia issues. Although I've heard it takes a bit for your brain to catch up and register the drastic changes. That part is weird. But I still have a ways to go yet.I do feel as if I have body dysmorphia issues.
I think that many of us - I will boldly assert most of us (not you, narcissists!) - have some degree of body dysmorphia, imposter syndrome, or just generally that voice in our head telling us we are a …. But I digress.
Throughout my life, no matter how fit I have been, I have thought I look fat, no matter how well everything was going, I thought I was a failure. I once had a convo with my best friend from childhood, as we sat in his 27th floor office, about how we often felt like our Dads were going to walk in and tell us play time was over and they needed to get back to work.
At that time, he was managing 50+ people and I was flying to London to launch hedge funds. (Which did not, in fact, make me fabulously wealthy.)Studies show that over 90% of successful people have imposter syndrome. I think some degree of these hobgoblins is healthy, as it can motivate you to improve yourself. But some people indulge it, or it gets out of control, and that is when bad things can happen. Also, people in the throes of these afflictions simply refuse to believe that other people also have it, and that they are not alone.
And yes, this is another rabbit hole I spend probably way too much of my time focusing on.
Anyway, you’re doing great! Keep up the good work. Have a Ho-Ho or an Oreo once in a while.
In closing: (Randy Savage voice) Get after those gains, Brother!
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Completely agree with this post. I have started to think about it this way. My hardware is set. It was set as a child. No upgrade coming. Inner dialogue is what it is. You're fat. No one loves you. You're not good enough.
Over the years through hard work in and out of the gym. Self help groups. Podcasts. I know this isnt true. My software has been upgraded. That voice is there. I hear it less often and its quieter.
I've lost almost 200 pounds. I'm skinnier and in better shape than most of my friends yet I still think Im fat. Sometimes I just laugh, say STFU and hit the gym.
Stay the course my friends. The future you will be grateful you did.
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@mydogdaryl423 @researchcat these are great posts couldn’t agree more. I have never really been heavy but always chasing a chiseled body and now in my 50’s chasing longevity and feeling healthy. I am the most chiseled I have ever been. It’s feels great to be able to sit by the beach with my shirt off and feel good about myself I tell people peptides are what the internet was in the 80’s - 90’a, what AI is today so far but for your general well being. What @randy has provided us is extraordinary a place to talk about our successes and achieve our goals without suffering the pitfalls on our own. This is a learning persons game we are at the forefront and we all have a place now to share, compare and most importantly do this in a safe manner
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I do feel as if I have body dysmorphia issues.
I think that many of us - I will boldly assert most of us (not you, narcissists!) - have some degree of body dysmorphia, imposter syndrome, or just generally that voice in our head telling us we are a …. But I digress.
Throughout my life, no matter how fit I have been, I have thought I look fat, no matter how well everything was going, I thought I was a failure. I once had a convo with my best friend from childhood, as we sat in his 27th floor office, about how we often felt like our Dads were going to walk in and tell us play time was over and they needed to get back to work.
At that time, he was managing 50+ people and I was flying to London to launch hedge funds. (Which did not, in fact, make me fabulously wealthy.)Studies show that over 90% of successful people have imposter syndrome. I think some degree of these hobgoblins is healthy, as it can motivate you to improve yourself. But some people indulge it, or it gets out of control, and that is when bad things can happen. Also, people in the throes of these afflictions simply refuse to believe that other people also have it, and that they are not alone.
And yes, this is another rabbit hole I spend probably way too much of my time focusing on.
Anyway, you’re doing great! Keep up the good work. Have a Ho-Ho or an Oreo once in a while.
In closing: (Randy Savage voice) Get after those gains, Brother!
@ResearchCat Well said and my thoughts to a T.
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Completely agree with this post. I have started to think about it this way. My hardware is set. It was set as a child. No upgrade coming. Inner dialogue is what it is. You're fat. No one loves you. You're not good enough.
Over the years through hard work in and out of the gym. Self help groups. Podcasts. I know this isnt true. My software has been upgraded. That voice is there. I hear it less often and its quieter.
I've lost almost 200 pounds. I'm skinnier and in better shape than most of my friends yet I still think Im fat. Sometimes I just laugh, say STFU and hit the gym.
Stay the course my friends. The future you will be grateful you did.
@Mydogdaryl423 Same but maybe not as far along as you on the new software.
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@shaqdiesel I have goals now so that voice is just not productive anymore. I would never let someone speak to me the way my inner dialogue does. Just like other goals you get better with practice and consistency. Proof helps too. I always said I was lazy. I have proven this to not be true by how hard I work on all aspects of my life. So if I hear that I will actually say out loud that may have been true in the past but not now.
Be kind to yourself. It all sounds so corny as Im typing it but it has really worked to help me deal with the circus in my head. -
@mydogdaryl423 I was listening to Chris Williamson Monday and one of the things they were talking about was exercises where men write the things they say to themselves in their head and then pair up and say it to someone else. Much of it is stuff we can’t bring ourselves to say to other people.
In my case, proving that voice wrong has been a winning strategy; it just would have been nice if someone told me 45 years earlier that everyone has it, that you can curate what it says to you, and that it is a liar.
Interesting rabbit hole is the biological/evolutionary basis for why these thoughts exist and the purpose they serve from a tribal belonging and survival perspective.
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@researchcat
I used to say things like I wish some one had told me this or why didn't someone step in then. Last couple of years I realized they did. I wasnt listening and was too hard headed. Needed to crash and burn. Needed pain to force me to change.Love Chris Williamson.
https://youtu.be/Br7aXxwGZYk?is=EtLSqz5Swm5VP8S- -
@mydogdaryl423 Another big one I’ve been hitting on recently: Everything is going to work out fine. Everybody is freaking out about this or that or the other thing. Fix the shit you can fix. Handle your own problems. Don’t be a dick to everybody all the time. When things get better, you’ll be in good shape. I know so many people who spend all their time doom-scrolling and convincing themselves the world is ending, and in person, they’re kind of shit to be around.
Another human foible is that we think the time we live in is momentous and critical to world events, and any mis-step will doom us all. That is just self-importance. We’re all specks of dust in the universe, special and unique, but gone in an instant. In 100 years, no one will remember us, or the idiots we obsess about. One person might get a line in a history book.
Now, you might not be around when things get better; but they will get better. No need to make it worse for everyone while we work on it.
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@mydogdaryl423 Another big one I’ve been hitting on recently: Everything is going to work out fine. Everybody is freaking out about this or that or the other thing. Fix the shit you can fix. Handle your own problems. Don’t be a dick to everybody all the time. When things get better, you’ll be in good shape. I know so many people who spend all their time doom-scrolling and convincing themselves the world is ending, and in person, they’re kind of shit to be around.
Another human foible is that we think the time we live in is momentous and critical to world events, and any mis-step will doom us all. That is just self-importance. We’re all specks of dust in the universe, special and unique, but gone in an instant. In 100 years, no one will remember us, or the idiots we obsess about. One person might get a line in a history book.
Now, you might not be around when things get better; but they will get better. No need to make it worse for everyone while we work on it.
We’re all specks of dust in the universe
Amen.
Ironic how we love to always rank each other. We are all so far down the food chain that, in the grand scheme of things, the space between the greatest and least of us is microscopic. -
@mydogdaryl423 I was listening to Chris Williamson Monday and one of the things they were talking about was exercises where men write the things they say to themselves in their head and then pair up and say it to someone else. Much of it is stuff we can’t bring ourselves to say to other people.
In my case, proving that voice wrong has been a winning strategy; it just would have been nice if someone told me 45 years earlier that everyone has it, that you can curate what it says to you, and that it is a liar.
Interesting rabbit hole is the biological/evolutionary basis for why these thoughts exist and the purpose they serve from a tribal belonging and survival perspective.
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